Last night I cried myself to sleep, because I can see which way the wind is blowing in Queensland in terms of LGBTI policy and I feel powerless.
Our rights and advocates like Healthy Communities are being stripped from us (or “rolled back” which doesn’t sound nearly so alarming does it?). Little by little.
Incremental changes that no-one but people it directly affects gets upset about. If you think these changes won’t really, dramatically affect the lives of people you know and love then you’re living in fantasy land.
Reasonable, rational, good hearted heterosexual people might believe the government when they say “oh the HIV infection rates were rising so we got rid of Healthy Communities”. A little later people might, if they hear about it at all, think “Oh they are not allowing two mothers to be recognised on a birth certificate – well that’s just a piece of paper”. Little by little these changes will happen with very little fuss kicked up by the wider community until our lives as couples under the law are as valid as one big fat pretend commitment ceremony.
I’m not going to go into it all here, but this is a great source of info: http://lgbtlawblog.blogspot.com.au/
These changes are already affecting Leigh and I, not to mention the existing barriers we face (we are “socially infertile”). If we do manage to jump through all the hurdles that lie before us and have a child, only one of us will legally be its parent. Only one of us listed on the child’s birth certificate. And I am sure it won’t end there.
At the moment we do not have the same legal rights as heterosexual couples. Unless that is also the case with you then I’m not sure how to adequately explain how it feels.
Many friends when it comes to marriage equality give me the whole “it’s just a piece of paper” spiel which comes from the right place I know. But until you’re told your relationship is not recognised, but others are, and you cannot have that piece of paper, I can’t explain it to you.
I feel like one of the few frogs in the pot that has noticed the water is starting to boil.
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